You don’t choose your spouse on the day you receive/make a proposal of marriage.

You don’t choose your spouse on your wedding day when you make vows in front of God Almighty and your friends and family.

You don’t choose your spouse on anniversaries at a posh bed and breakfast where your every whim is waited on and you have peaceful time to enjoy eye contact and deep conversation and love-making.

You don’t choose your spouse at the
moments that you think you do.

You choose your spouse every day.  Every day.  You decide, “I’m in it – we’re doing this – no matter what.”

And sometimes that “what” happens.  And you want to make a different choice.  Admittedly, a bad choice or a stupid choice, but you want to go the easy route and quit.  Or just stop trying for a short while… just to catch your breath.  You’ll come back later, right? Or maybe your spouse can just choose you for awhile so that you can take a little break from making so much effort.

It is in those moments that you choose your spouse.  You choose them, not because it is easy or simple.  And not even just because it is the right thing to do.  You choose them because you are bound in love.  You are united and you have a history of choosing them every single day.  So you do it again.  And again.

Sometimes it is so easy.  You love to choose your spouse!  And sometimes it is painfully hard.  But this is your person – your other half.  And if you can trust God to help them choose you every day just as He helps you choose them, the reward is being whole.  Two but one.  No severs, no tears.  Just a series of choices wrapped around and through and inside and out so that you are together.  Really together.

That’s love.  Making choices every single day.  And it is worth it.